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Child Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence: Understanding the Connection in Family Law… Matters

The link between intimate partner violence (IPV) and child abuse may not be immediately apparent, yet it's important to understand the significant overlap between these issues. Family law and allied professionals should be aware of this connection to effectively protect and support children. Recognizing this interplay is essential in navigating the legal and emotional complexities involved in safeguarding the well-being of vulnerable children.


The Alarming Connection

Research, such as the studies by Tullberg & Vaughon (2023) and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (NCJFCJ) from 2019, reveals the alarming connection: a considerable number of children exposed to IPV also suffer from maltreatment. The idea that IPV is mostly contained within the intimate relationship is simply false. Individuals who resort to abusive behavior in their intimate relationships often use similar tactics in their parenting. Their mindset, along with behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes, tends to permeate various relationships, shaping their interactions.

Overlooked Connections in Family Law

Understanding the overlap between IPV and child maltreatment highlights the need for a sensitive and informed approach within the family law system. Yet, this essential connection is often overlooked or underappreciated, leading to significant challenges in how children’s narratives and traumas are addressed.

Addressing Misconceptions

Within the context of family law, the way children's stories and experiences are handled can often be flawed. Common misconceptions risk undervaluing children's perspectives by assuming they are easily manipulated or lack insight into their own needs. It's important to recognize that while children's ability to discern what is best for them can vary with their developmental stage and other factors, this does not justify diminishing, reformulating, or minimizing their views and experiences. Moreover, in the contested territory of parenting disputes, there's a tendency to misconstrue allegations of abuse—both IPV and child abuse—as tactical maneuvers rather than legitimate calls for help, thereby undermining the authenticity of children's experiences and inadvertently putting them at greater risk.

Steps Toward Prevention

To prevent child abuse in the realm of family law, our first step must be to earnestly listen to children and believe their accounts. We must confront and dispel the myth that allegations of IPV and child abuse, including child sexual abuse, are often leveraged as legal strategies. Additionally, it's imperative to acknowledge the intertwined nature of IPV and child maltreatment and understand that a child’s exposure to such violence—directly or indirectly as a witness—constitutes an adverse childhood experience (ACE) potentially with deep, lasting impacts. Addressing child abuse within family law requires deliberate and ongoing education about IPV and domestic violence, universal screening for domestic violence across all family law cases and interventions, and recognition of the full spectrum of abuse, beyond just physical manifestations.


Understanding the link between child abuse and domestic violence within family law is critical. The evidence compellingly points to a significant overlap between IPV and child maltreatment that requires a thoughtful and multifaceted approach. It’s about shifting towards informed understanding, and operationalizing the rights of the child. This includes taking proactive measures, listening to children's experiences, debunking myths, and implementing strategies that encompass education, universal screening, and a broad acknowledgment of all forms of abuse. These efforts pave the way toward better protection and support for vulnerable children.

This is an area where every informed decision, every supportive action, and every piece of shared knowledge can make a difference. Because in the realm of family law, the well-being of children is paramount, and how we address these matters… Matters.

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